Every year, thousands of children are forced to contend with their parents’ divorce, which may negatively impact them. Parents should try to do everything they can to mitigate the adverse effects on their children and support them through this challenging time. One of the most important things parents can do is come together and continue to parent their children respectfully and collaboratively through co-parenting. After a divorce, co-parenting is when both parents continue to work together and jointly participate in their child’s upbringing and activities. Co-parenting can be complicated and overwhelming, but there are a couple of tips to consider to make your co-parent relationship a success.
Having an open line of communication is one of the most vital aspects to co-parenting with your ex-spouse successfully. Parents should communicate directly with each other instead of using their children as the messenger. Even if you believe that your child is mature enough, do not confide in him/her about conflicts with your ex-spouse. Disagreements should take place privately between you and your ex-spouse, without involving your children.
Communications should be professional and respectful and focus on the well-being of your children. When communicating, it is essential to listen to what the other parent is saying. Parents prefer to communicate differently, so it is best to discuss whether it is best to communicate in person or through texting, emails, or phone calls. You may also set boundaries together on how often you feel it is appropriate to contact each other.
Create a Plan & Stick to It
A consistent schedule will help children adjust to the divorce and living in two households. Parents should develop a comprehensive parenting plan and schedule that clearly defines each person’s parenting time, expectations, and exchange procedures. Once in a routine, children will feel more comfortable with the circumstances, so it is best not to make them readjust often with schedule changes. It is important to discuss who will pick your children up and drop them off from school and their various activities to ensure that your child is confident in his/her new family structure.
Overall, it is crucial to put your child’s best interest first during and after your divorce. Co-parenting takes a lot of hard work, communication, and compromise, but the payoff is well-adjusted and supported children. George Christopoulos will be there for you, whether you need an attorney to assist you in your divorce proceedings or represent you during post-divorce issues. With over 20 years of experience fighting for spouses’ rights in the New Jersey Family Courts, Mr. Christopoulos will provide you with peace of mind knowing your rights are protected. Do not hesitate to call the Law Offices of George Christopoulos, P.C. at (201) 488-1825 to discuss your options.